tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3421475838864238344.post8939853454465720375..comments2023-10-24T06:40:27.247-06:00Comments on 11th Heaven's Homemaking Haven: How to speak really nicely to your children...Mom2my10 @ 11th Heavenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14813012011182498512noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3421475838864238344.post-40734389270541862372010-04-23T19:52:28.101-06:002010-04-23T19:52:28.101-06:00Thank you so much, Lindsey, for this your comment....Thank you so much, Lindsey, for this your comment. You made my day. I hope you find something that works. Let me know! I have 2-year-old twins, and I find I'm at my wit's end often! How old are your twins?Mom2my10 @ 11th Heavenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14813012011182498512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3421475838864238344.post-28850384367934987072010-04-20T23:15:47.359-06:002010-04-20T23:15:47.359-06:00Prayers answered! Who knew that randomly clicking...Prayers answered! Who knew that randomly clicking on interesting post links on your blog would lead me to that?<br />I have been doing some soul searching on this very thing lately. I used to be such a yeller when my first was tiny. Then I calmed down a bit for a few years until recently when the twins started ignoring me. I feel like I'm yelling all. the. time. now. The other day, it struck me that I would never ever speak to my husband the way I speak to my children; why in the world am I speaking to my kids this way?? Not only do I yell, but I've become quite cynically sarcastic with them, too. Ug. I feel like such a horrible mom when I think back on the things I've said to them. I need someone to follow me around whose only job is to slap me across the face when I say something snotty or yell at my kids. I've been praying and praying for help to keep my brain ahead of my emotional tongue. It's helped some, reading this post made me think I need a more tangible punishment than my own guilt. My kids are too young for the chore card to really be of use, but the wheels are turning now and I'll come up with something.<br />Thank you so much!Lindseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10970269127406844833noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3421475838864238344.post-27402909101222966812009-10-14T06:47:11.942-06:002009-10-14T06:47:11.942-06:00Sometimes i go to older post I never read, this on...Sometimes i go to older post I never read, this one is so ingenious, how things are going now? I have the same issue :)alessandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02717630869734731630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3421475838864238344.post-8483352706251504662009-10-08T14:18:12.479-06:002009-10-08T14:18:12.479-06:00Hahaha, no, that's hysterical. =D
I had a ...Hahaha, no, that's hysterical. =D <br /><br />I had a friend once who said "They say the best gift a parent can give to their child is to be consistent. The only thing consistent about me is my inconsistency." I SO relate to that. =DKeeleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10699051418849331296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3421475838864238344.post-72829253374262268702009-10-08T14:07:01.593-06:002009-10-08T14:07:01.593-06:00Keeley, I didn't stick with it enough to know....Keeley, I didn't stick with it enough to know. Is that not horrible? <br /><br />As far as the ignoring thing, if I am sure my kids heard me, and they still ignore me, I will dole out some consequence, like making them work for an extra 20 minutes or something like that. I love assigning extra chores as a punishment. They learn work ethic, they are taught a lesson, and my house gets cleaner!Mom2my10 @ 11th Heavenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14813012011182498512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3421475838864238344.post-40787956772946259002009-10-08T14:01:20.490-06:002009-10-08T14:01:20.490-06:00Did it work?
I have a problem with being the in...Did it work? <br /><br />I have a problem with being the invisible person in the house where I ask someone to do something and am completely ignored. How does one go about getting their attention? Or, even worse, getting them to actually DO the thing you've asked them to do even when they ARE paying attention?Keeleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10699051418849331296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3421475838864238344.post-91750892240364046612008-08-12T22:12:00.000-06:002008-08-12T22:12:00.000-06:00I'm a yeller too but I'm getting better. The prob...I'm a yeller too but I'm getting better. The problem with my family is that I don't even have to raise my voice. All I have to do is say something they don't like and they will go off about how I yelled and screamed at them. Clearly they exaggerate and clearly when I do yell, they deserve it!Larahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12518442124374879454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3421475838864238344.post-71376445602373254522008-08-12T12:59:00.000-06:002008-08-12T12:59:00.000-06:00I am going to seriously consider using this, as I ...I am going to seriously consider using this, as I am a yeller. I have a loud voice though, so clarification will definitely be necessary! I've been shushed my whole life. I say seriously consider only because I'll have to do some real planning on how to make it work, probably just like you explained in your post.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for the idea.Kayrenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08735245416162284974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3421475838864238344.post-51028732188211971642008-08-12T10:47:00.000-06:002008-08-12T10:47:00.000-06:00Very creative. I'll have to keep that in mind when...Very creative. I'll have to keep that in mind when my kids get a little older.Danahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00746340347913253194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3421475838864238344.post-80736872182190061122008-08-12T10:22:00.000-06:002008-08-12T10:22:00.000-06:00Good idea! I am happy to say that this is ONE are...Good idea! I am happy to say that this is ONE area I don't struggle with my children, because I don't have a voice that can raise very well. In my head is another story though, lol.Jennifer @ Fruit of My Handshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11479983078312955832noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3421475838864238344.post-27674860002266190682008-08-12T07:48:00.000-06:002008-08-12T07:48:00.000-06:00Oh, good. I was beginning to think I was the only ...Oh, good. I was beginning to think I was the only one who yells at her children. Thanks for the tips. I have found the stop, drop and pray method effective. When I feel the stress creeping in I just get on my knees no matter what is going on and pray. The kids ask me what I'm doing and I tell them "Mommy's praying that she will not beat all of you sensless right now." They usually get the hint and will settle down.Dreamerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02503151646143352508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3421475838864238344.post-35293825215278968692008-08-08T15:52:00.000-06:002008-08-08T15:52:00.000-06:00Very cleverVery cleverAngela Nazworthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13949844180291293484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3421475838864238344.post-3274221547850968842008-08-07T20:23:00.000-06:002008-08-07T20:23:00.000-06:00That's a great idea...let me know how it works out...That's a great idea...let me know how it works out!Muthering Heightshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06660310558298459636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3421475838864238344.post-69569998148421271282008-08-07T12:39:00.000-06:002008-08-07T12:39:00.000-06:00I'm laughing too hard! Very cute! And very wise. ...I'm laughing too hard! Very cute! And very wise. . .Kristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02608199440254905212noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3421475838864238344.post-36816928793110061142008-08-07T11:44:00.000-06:002008-08-07T11:44:00.000-06:00I love this....I have always struggled with cussin...I love this....I have always struggled with cussing when angry or I hurt myself. Funny, how one can think they are alone in something like this.<BR/><BR/>Thank you for being so honest and sending your ideas our way!<BR/><BR/>...A Mom who sometimes raises her voice, um, yells....:)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3421475838864238344.post-39101913424278216602008-08-07T10:15:00.000-06:002008-08-07T10:15:00.000-06:00How very creative & clever you are!!I'm no...How very creative & clever you are!!<BR/><BR/>I'm not a cusser (being laughed at cured me of that), but, I admit, I have yelled quite a bit.<BR/><BR/>My <A HREF="http://www.usogirl.blogspot.com/" REL="nofollow">Sincerely 'Fro Me to You</A> is up too.D...https://www.blogger.com/profile/12178201484420845742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3421475838864238344.post-53837997450379921882008-08-07T09:32:00.000-06:002008-08-07T09:32:00.000-06:00That's a good idea. My daughter is quite the mock...That's a good idea. My daughter is quite the mocking bird these days, so I have to becareful when I stub my toe! I like how you have a pic of Jesus as one of the men in your life.<BR/>9 kids...Wow!littletoesandcheerioshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15457101557198481184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3421475838864238344.post-64060475583803335352008-08-06T21:03:00.000-06:002008-08-06T21:03:00.000-06:00i hope your idea works!!! :) it sounds promising!!...i hope your idea works!!! :) it sounds promising!!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3421475838864238344.post-13584857414919178952008-08-06T14:21:00.000-06:002008-08-06T14:21:00.000-06:00Dang, my kids would be very wealthy & the hous...Dang, my kids would be very wealthy & the house would be a mess if I did this. :) I should probably go wash my mouth out with soap now. :) <BR/><BR/><A HREF="http://anapronaday.blogspot.com/" REL="nofollow">Confessions of an Apron Queen</A>The Apron Queenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14397385130751028674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3421475838864238344.post-45576617793022185712008-08-06T01:16:00.000-06:002008-08-06T01:16:00.000-06:00You are too funny! I to will be interested to hear...You are too funny! I to will be interested to hear how it works. Good Luck..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3421475838864238344.post-32376673596965023592008-08-05T22:34:00.000-06:002008-08-05T22:34:00.000-06:00I'm really curious to know how this goes, Jenny. ...I'm really curious to know how this goes, Jenny. I want to see what your alternative to yelling turns out to be.Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13691049824163252659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3421475838864238344.post-50131165014480154972008-08-05T22:07:00.000-06:002008-08-05T22:07:00.000-06:00You are FUNNY! and wonderfully honest Jen...Thanks...You are FUNNY! and wonderfully honest Jen...Thanks for the tips, my kids will certainly appreciate your help;) heheThe Farmer's Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05901695394185277015noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3421475838864238344.post-60721820085013164052008-08-05T17:46:00.000-06:002008-08-05T17:46:00.000-06:00I'm surprised Krissy didn't say, I grew up with a ...I'm surprised Krissy didn't say, I grew up with a mom who was a yeller! LOL<BR/>BUT, in my defense, I didn't have to yell near as much at the girls as I did my BOYS! MY BOYS IGNORE THE HECK OUT OF ME and still do!<BR/>Oh what a creative woman you are! I sure hope this plan works. And yes, I know what you mean about having the kids to help! I need their help so much! And I know you do too, what with trying to raise twins and a 2 year old and the other kids! That's too funny!CJ, The Purple Divahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15948798503439411747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3421475838864238344.post-5592446646346682472008-08-05T17:05:00.000-06:002008-08-05T17:05:00.000-06:00you know, i remember that night when you almost hi...you know, i remember that night when you almost hit that man very vividly. i was terrified. how old was i? i don't remember seeing him but i remember your reaction and the intense swerving of the van...Bethany Coxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10014268786633948499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3421475838864238344.post-14151403284415800452008-08-05T13:10:00.000-06:002008-08-05T13:10:00.000-06:00Oh I just love that little poem! Very cute! Thanks...Oh I just love that little poem! Very cute! Thanks for stopping by my blog by the way!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com